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40 Personal questions To Ask A Girl You Like

By on December 23, 2014

It’s hard to know where to start when you are first getting to know someone and as you are probably already well aware, communication is vital for a relationship to work, especially in those early weeks when you are getting to know each other. One of the biggest mistakes that people make in relationships is getting too carried away with the psychical attraction and the fundamentals are very often overlooked – things like whether or not you’ll have anything in common or whether you are dead set against each other in the way you life, love and laugh.

The good news is that the next 40 personal questions to ask a girl you like that you will read will give you a little insight into how she really works – what makes her happy and sad, what ticks her off, what you can use to make her smile, get you out of trouble, make her (and your) life a little easier. The next question you should ask is this – are you ready to read and find out more?

Here are the 40 personal questions to ask a girl you like and get to know the real her:

1 – Have you ever volunteered for something?

Charitable girls are attractive girls – it’s nice to know that they will do something for someone or something without expecting anything in return. Isn’t that basically what charity is?


2 – Do you work out?

The last thing you are going to want is for this girl to let herself go and as much as you’ll generally be able to tell whether or not a girl works out by what she looks like, it’s always a good idea to get a grip of her feelings on exercise. If she’s not a fan, there’s the worry that she might put a bit of weight on as the two of you get comfortable. At the same time, you don’t want a girl that goes to the gym everyday while you’re the laziest guy on earth.

3 – Do you have any favourite restaurants? What’s your favourite food?

Hint – anniversaries, birthdays, “I’m sorry’s”, etc.

4 – Do you like to stay in touch with people that have moved away or do you have a tendency to forget all about them?

It’s nice to know that she’ll put the effort in for her friends when they are far away. You’ll be surprised at how few people actually do this, and how much of a turn-off it is when they don’t… If she can be like that with her so-called friends, could she be like with that you if you ever had to move away for school, college, a job, etc.

5 – What are your views on what happens after you die?

This is not only a good idea to broach the whole death conversation because you can see which side of the fence you both sit on, but you can also get a good idea of how religious she is by how she answers. Religion is a big deal to some people so it’s always a good idea to get this out of the way nice and early when you first start dating someone so there are no awkward ending-conversations later on down the line.

6 – Are you organised or messy?

No one likes a really untidy girl, do they?

7 – What’s your temper like?

Is she going to key your car or just shout at you for a couple of hours when you have done something wrong? This is always handy information to have upfront… It’s just smart thinking!

8 – What’s your idea of a bad night out?

It could be full-to-the-brim nightclubs or restaurants with rats running around the floor. The good thing about this question is that it is guaranteed to get her talking about past dating experiences and you can learn from those stupid guy’s mistakes!

9 – What turns you off the most in men?

Standard question that should be asked at the beginning of every relationship really… What’s the point in knowing what does work if you don’t know what will put her off at the same time?

10 – Who responsibility is it to keep things nice and romantic in the relationship – him or her…?

You don’t want a girl that expects you to do EVERYTHING, do you?

11 – Do you think that you are an ambitious person in life?

12 – Have you ever been travelling to another country?

Where have you been? What did you like the most about those places? Great conversation starters – anything travel related is good!

13 – Have you ever had a one night stand?

Well, that’s about as personal as it gets, isn’t it?

14 – If I was going to take you on a surprise vacation, where would you like it to be?

Just in case you ever get rich and fancy taking her away somewhere nice, you know!

15 – Have you ever been through an experiences that you couldn’t explain?

Ghosts, ghouls, the paranormal…

16 – How do you relax and de-stress when you are having a hard time?

… You could always give her a helping hand at the end of a long day with a nice massage or a nice, hot bath too! Girls like that kind of thing.

17 – What is instantly guaranteed to put a smile on your face without even needing to think about it?

This is a smart question… You’ll find out why when you learn how to put what she says into practice! 😉

18 – Are you a possessive person?

Do you get easily jealous? Are you going to make my life a nightmare if I go out and a girl starts talking to me at the bar?

19 – Why did you break up with your last boyfriend?

*Bring tissues if the breakup was recent – she’s probably going to cry!

20 – Do you prefer to keep in touch with your ex-boyfriends or completely erase them from your life?

You might not like the answer but at least then you’ll know what to expect when you try to date her.

21 – What do you do when you have a weekend to yourself?

Is there anything that you’d rather be doing if you could?

22 – Has there ever been a song that you have listened to on repeat over and over again?

Why? What fit he song mean to you? Does it still have the same effect on you now?

23 – Do you think that physical intimacy is important to make a relationship last?

24 – Were you ever bullied at school?

Bullying at school can have lasting repercussions later on in life. It might be wise to know this information upfront so that you know exactly what you are letting yourself in for.

25 – Have you ever had a fight with another girl?

What was the fight about? How did it all end? (Essentially, you’re asking her if she won!)

26 – When you were younger, what did you always dream of being when you grew up?

It’s funny how we very rarely become the thing we wanted to be when we were older. Maybe she was one of the lucky ones?

27 – Do you think you have any weird habits?

Imagine if she chewed her own toenails in bed or hummed strange songs as she brushes her teeth. I would always advise you to learn the quirky weird habits right at the beginning and trust me, all girls have them!

28 – Why did your first relationship break down?

29 – If you could only have one, what would it be – chocolates or diamonds?

Imagine how annoyed you’d be wasting your money buying diamonds when she would have been happy with chocolates!

30 – Have you ever had an experience that you would consider to be near-death?

31 – Where do you see us being in a year’s time?

Are we still together? Can you see yourself with me in the longterm or am I just a short term thing for you? Do you even know how you feel?

32 – Do you have any health concerns?

Is there anything that worries you? Are you having treatment for anything?

33 – Have you ever wanted to be famous?

What would you want to be famous for? A nobel peace prize winner? An author? A beauty pageant queen?

34 – Have you ever been in love?

Real love; love that breaks your heart when it ends?

35 – What’s your favourite biscuit?

You definitely don’t want to be having biscuit wars first thing in the morning!

36 – What’s your favourite fragrance?

Firstly, you’ll need to know what to buy her for birthdays, Christmas. etc. Secondly, when you really upset her, a bottle of her favourite luxurious perfume with a well-presented bunch of flowers could really help do the trick.

37 – What’s your favourite chick-flick movie?

Is it The Notebook? What about Pretty Woman? Maybe it’s Dirty Dancing that gets you all in a fizz about love? You need to know what films to bring her during shark week when all she wants to do is hate you! 😉

38 – How important is sex to you in a relationship?

What if she wants to wait until marriage and that’s not quite your gig? Or vice versa? This is something you need to know about her pre-relationship!

39 – What’s more important to you? Honesty or kindness?

Which would could you do without in a relationship? No one is perfect after all…

40 – How old do you want to be when you have your first kid?

What if she wants to be a career woman, putting kids on hold until she’s in her late thirties but you’ve always dreamed of becoming a young dad? Again – important stuff!