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40 Speed Dating Questions to Ask a Girl

By on January 13, 2015

Speed dating is one of the latest developments in the world of dating. Unlike traditional barhopping, you meet girls who are interested in finding a date. Since you only have a couple of minutes to make an impression, you have to look and act your best. You must convince the right girl in a matter of minutes that you are someone that they should date. In addition, you need to find out if the girl is right for you in a matter of minutes. To do this, you should have a list of questions in mind that will help you to decide who is right for you.

1. What do You do for Fun?

This is one of the first questions that you should ask. By asking this question, it will help you to see if she has similar interests. Although different hobbies is a good thing, you still want to make sure that some of your hobbies are the same.

2. What is Your Job?


This is a basic question to ask her. Other than revealing her personal career interests, it does not reveal much else.

3. Are You Interested in Marriage?

If things are going well, you can ask this question. It will let you know what her plans are for the future and if she expects things to become serious later on. At this stage of the relationship, you may also want to ask if they have been married before.

4. What is the Most Important Thing in a Relationship?

You have expectations of her. It is unsurprising that she would expect things from you as well. You need to know what she wants in a relationship and what she expects in a partner. Before things get serious, you need to make sure that you are both on the same page.

5. Where are You From?

This is another basic question, but it can illuminate her background. Someone raised in the inner city of Philadelphia will have different expectations than someone raised in the rural south. This question can also give you more questions to ask her if it is hard to get the ball rolling in the conversation.

6. Do You Want Children?

If you are fully against having children, you will need to know if that is what she wants. This can be a make-or-break thing on a relationship checklist.

7. What are You Looking for in a Relationship?

Before you get into anything serious, you need to know what she is looking for. She may want a temporary fling, or she may want a serious relationship. You need to know what she is looking for before you get involved.

8. Are You Single?

At a speed dating event, it should be obvious that everyone is single. Unfortunately, this is far from the truth. Women may start speed dating to support a friend or just a friend. You should ask them if they are single before you get too involved. Nothing is worse than finding out later that she is involved with someone else.

9. What do You Look for in a Husband?

This question helps you to figure out if you are dating the right person. It also allows you to understand what she will expect. She may want a provider, an adventurer or an academic. You need to know what she wants before you are fully committed to the relationship.

10. What is One Thing That You Want to Tell Me?

You want to know everything about her in just a couple of minutes. To do that, you need to know exactly who she is and what she wants to tell you. An honest answer to this question can be extremely revealing about who she is and what she wants in a relationship.

11. When Did You End Your Last Relationship? How Long Did it Last?

Unless you want a brief fling, you need to know when her last relationship was. If she is just getting out of a serious, multi-year relationship, you do not want to date her. Even if she wants to be, she is not in a place yet to date someone new.

12. Do You Have Children?

You are not heartless for wanting to date a single no-child woman. Some people are made to be fathers, and you may not be “dad” material. Before you get involved, you need to know if she already has children. Likewise, you should let her know if you already have a few kids running around. This is not something that should be found out by accident later on.

13. What Did You Want to Be?

Most people have different careers than what they expected. It can be illuminating to find out what she wanted to be.

14. Are You Attending to School?

Someone who is unemployed may be jobless for a reason. They may be attending school. You should find out why they are unemployed before you rush to judgement.

15. Does She Have Pets?

If she is a dog or cat lover, it could be a sign that she is a sympathetic soul. You may also want to know if she has pets if you harbor a secret hatred for four-legged friends.

16. How Old Are You?

You need to approach this question carefully, but it may need to be asked. When speed dating, you need to find a partner within your age range.

17. How Long Have You Lived Here?

If she has lived abroad or in other states, it could be a sign of personal independence. It also could be a way for you to start a new conversation. People always like to talk about the places that they have traveled to.

18. What is Your Greatest Accomplishment?

This question can reveal a lot about who she is and what she cares about.

19. Are You Political?

If you are a diehard Republican or Democrat, her political affiliations could matter greatly. Beyond just asking about her political standpoint, you should ask about why you have those views.

20. What Unusual Talent Do You Have?

An unusual talent could reveal a complex, interesting personality. It can also reveal the parts of their past that are interesting. You can learn what she likes, yearns for and work towards.

21. Is Religion a Factor in Who You Date?

You need to know if your religious beliefs or lack of beliefs will matter to her.

22. What is Your Favorite Season?

It may not be an exciting reason, but it will help you to get to know her. This question can also help to spark further conversation.

23. What is Your Dream Vacation?

Everyone has a dream travel location that they want to go to. In addition to revealing more about her, this question can also indicate if your goals are in line with her ambitions.

24. Do You Believe in Love at First Sight?

A romantic woman could be just what you are looking for. Since it could also be your worst nightmare, you need to know in advance.

25. What is Your Favorite Book?

If she cannot answer, you know that she is not an intellectual. Her answer can also reveal what she cares about.

26. What is Your Favorite Band?

It may not reveal a lot, but it can lead to further conversation. You can talk about the concerts, bands or events that she has attended.

27. What Possession do You Treasure Most?

This question can reveal what she is sentimental about or what she cares about. Learning about what she treasures most can help you learn more about who she is as a person.


28. Where Have You Traveled to?

You can ask this question to find out about where she has been and what she cares about. If you have traveled to the same locations, you can have a new topic to discuss. It may be hard to find shared topics in speed dating, but it is possible.

29. If You Could do Anything, What Would You Do?

Everyone has dreams. You have only a few minutes to find out what she dreams about and wants to do. Sometimes, money or time is a limitation that stops us from fulfilling our dreams. These dreams still remain something that decides who we become.

30. Do You Like City or Rural Areas?

It may seem like a fairly boring question, but it could reveal a lot about your future. If she plans on having a suburban or country home, you need to know before you get to involved. Your goals and dreams need to be similar if you want to have a happy relationship.

31. How Do Friends Describe You?

Since friends know her best, you should know what they think about her.

32. What Are You Passionate About?

Even if she does not have time to support a cause, you should get to know what she truly cares about.

33. How Many Siblings Do You Have?

People who grow up as an only child or in a large family are just different.

34. What is Your Favorite Color?

It might not be exciting, but it can get the conversation rolling.

35. What is Your Favorite Personality Trait?

This question will show who she is and what she values.

36. What do You Want to Change About Yourself?

Everyone has something that they want to change. Use this question to discover what she wishes was different.

37. What Cuisine do You Like?

This is a great way for you to learn where to take her on a second date.

38. Are You an Indoor or Outdoor Type of Girl?

You need to know how you will spend your together time.

39. What Type of Animal Would You Be?

It may not be super revealing, but this question is fairly amusing.

40. Where Do You Want to Be in Five Years?

Use this question to figure out if her goals are in line with your own hopes and dreams.

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